Practicing what you preach is NOT easy… and honestly, it may be nearly impossible to be 100% committed and successful at.
The past two weeks in the Foundations of Getting Organized Program, we have been talking a lot about values and setting priorities… Equally as much, we have talked about when these things are not aligned or if what we say and do around these things are not in alignment the negative consequences is can create in our lives.
Many times when we do not practicing what we preach, we rationalize our behaviors… which basically means we are lying to ourselves. Google gives us this definition for rationalize, “attempt to explain or justify (one’s own or another’s behavior or attitude) with logical, plausible reasons, even if these are not true or appropriate.”
Right in the definition, it talks about how the things we are trying to justify may be WRONG…
That is the second problem we often have, we do not like to admit to ourselves that we are wrong, or doing something not in line with what we know to be true. We need to accept that one thing is right and one thing is wrong, and more importantly we need to be ok with that. When we can separate the truth and look at it from a different view we can begin to do the important work.
Once we have accepted the truth as it is, then we get into the tough part — making changes. This is not going to be easy, but you can do it in steps. Change does not have to be over night, it does not have to be perfect, and at least at first it definitely do not need to be complete.
Remember when you start rationalizing your behavior:
1) You have a truth
2) Something is wrong or in contradiction to this truth
3) It is ok that it is wrong
4) Start thinking and ACTING on making even small changes
For example, if you believe helping out around the house is what creates a cohesive and loving environment for your family, but when you come home you immediately plop down on the couch.
Accept your TRUTH:
— helping out around the house is what creates a cohesive and loving environment for your family
Acknowledge your LIE
— I had a hard day and deserve to just relax for the rest of the evening in front of the tv
Work toward adjusting your RESPONSE:
— When you come in put your shoes away, hang up your jacket, put away your other personal items instead of just plopping them somewhere
— Consider setting the table for dinner, or asking if there is something that you can help with
— Check in on the kids to see if they need help with homework
— Start putting together lunches for the family for the next day
— Promise yourself you will have time after dinner to sit and watch tv — after you have put in sometime around the house, helping the family.
What areas of your life are you NOT practicing what you preach? How are you rationalizing these lies we tell ourselves? How can you start making some small changes toward living in alignment today?